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Originally posted by OhioCouple
Okay, my response is based on the original post written by ES. So he really knows nothing about them (other than they claim to be from Germany) and that they want his phone number after three emails in which they have told him nothing? That is a red flag to me. Only ES can tell us the content of the exchanges of emails, but I got the impression that it was one sided on his end. The picture deal...I can understand that, as I am not one that requires a picture since it tells me nothing about the person in the picture other than physical attributes. However, why did this couple skirt the issue rather than be honest and say we aren't comfortable with giving our pictures out, much in the same way that ES did about giving out his phone number? That is another red flag to me.
Now there could be another twist to this. ES, when you wrote that note to them in German, you did by chance use a Language Tools program did you? JC of Uneed_Love can attest to my embarassment of having used one in an email to him. It translated something entirely different than what I meant and was quite embarassing.  Needless to say, I go straight to the source now, never a Language Tools program any more.
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I've reread the emails several times and for the life of me, I only learned three things. In the first email they've been married 12 years, and they really enjoyed her being with black men. But all that was taken word for word from their profile. In the second email, they said they are from a town in Germany 30 miles from the town I was stationed at for a year, and that they had two kids at home so only played when they traveled to the states. But that was in their profile too. Thats also when they asked for my phone number. Three, they got into swinging after their second honeymoon in the U.S., but that was in their profile too.
I was tempted, but after chatting with her on Yahoo!, I was turned off mainly because everything she said focused on me being black. Not anything I mentioned in either my profiles or my email. It would be like constantly telling an attractive woman I want to sleep with her because she has big tits. It may be the truth, but its only flattering the first dozen times you hear it. Up until the chat(I should have mentioned that, sorry) I was thinking about buying a prepaid cellphone and giving them that number simply to practice my German again. But after 10 minutes of her writing about black men this and black men that, I got bored with her, but started looking for a reason to continue talking to them. It may have been a second language thing, but she didn't seem to understand why I wasn't flattered by her remarks. Funny thing is, another German couple wrote to me through Yahoo about the same thing (being with a black man), but when I made my feelings known, I recieved a picture from them, and THEIR phone number. They also told me about their jobs, the foods they won't eat, and when they would be travelling to the states. The other couple skirted around all those issues, even about the food.
Sorry, but I guess it was something more than wanting information. I guess I wanted to know they were looking for me as who I am, not just what I am. When I think back on it, I have given my phone number to people after two or three emails. But they all lived within 150 miles and didn't dwell on the color thing. It might have been something lost in the translation, but it seemed too important to them, in my opinion.
On a side note, why is it that the only people interested in writing me live so far away that they have to schedule a vacation to see me? Don't know how to take that.