And that is just another issue...the picture thing. Maybe ES inadvertently "scared" them with the initial request for a picture. Again, we don't know the content of the e-mails and what ES might consider "telling little" about themselves might not be what others consider "telling little." The other thing...and I could certainly be mistaken on this, but it seems I've read that swinging and sexuality in general is more open in some of the European countries. Maybe that accounts for part of their attitude. Maybe they simply are not used to American skepticism.
You made a point about the German translation thing, but I would assume that ES can either speak German or they speak English. Or again, maybe they don't and that is the reason they don't or can't talk on the phone. Another thing...did they send the initial e-mail to ES in German or English? And if in English, why the switch to German?
The bottom line here, IMO, is that either party could consider the other game-players. And rightfully so, given what we all know. So yes...if I'm really interested, I take that into consideration. But personally, I would not be agreeable to maintaining some kind of e-mail communication with anyone not agreeable to speaking with me on the phone. I have better things to do with my time and frankly, e-mail is great but doesn't allow for the communication that a telephone does. And especially if I was planning a trip to a foreign country and maybe my time frame was limited. Who knows? Maybe they were planning their visit for the near future and felt that they didn't have the time to engage in a bunch of chit-chat before their trip - especially given the apparent numbers of single men available that would have a different attitude.
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I really don't see how that could be done any differently than you do with couples, with the exception of if the relationship elevated to the point where sex were to be involved...
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Exactly...and tho' you may do it differently as an admittedly cautious person, as am I, we both know that many others take different views. As an aside in terms of the "in residence" thing...you may want to keep in mind, for future reference, that not all singles have a home or apartment conducive to inviting guests. Especially some of the single men's whose homes I've visited.
You may just want to look at it from the outside. But then again, maybe you would enjoy sitting on orange crates? And bean bag chairs?
- EBF
