Okay, my response is based on the original post written by ES.
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...Cool, except they told me nothing about themselves, skirted around my request for a picture first (and I wrote that email in German), and didn't answer my fourth email asking for a little more info (like what they like to eat, what kind of music they like, etc.) when I said I didn't feel comfortable giving my phone number to someone so soon...
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So he really knows nothing about them (other than they claim to be from Germany) and that they want his phone number after three emails in which they have told him nothing? That is a red flag to me. Only ES can tell us the content of the exchanges of emails, but I got the impression that it was one sided on his end. The picture deal...I can understand that, as I am not one that requires a picture since it tells me nothing about the person in the picture other than physical attributes. However, why did this couple skirt the issue rather than be honest and say we aren't comfortable with giving our pictures out, much in the same way that ES did about giving out his phone number? That is another red flag to me.
Now there could be another twist to this. ES, when you wrote that note to them in German, you did by chance use a Language Tools program did you? JC of Uneed_Love can attest to my embarassment of having used one in an email to him. It translated something entirely different than what I meant and was quite embarassing.
Needless to say, I go straight to the source now, never a Language Tools program any more.
Now, as I said before, we have never sought out singles, but I am in agreement that I would be more inquisitve about providing proof, however, I really don't see how that could be done any differently than you do with couples, with the exception of if the relationship elevated to the point where sex were to be involved, I'd probably require that it be in their residence on a first meet. That would resolve any fears of them not being truly single to the best of my ability to determine it.