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Chicup · 12-29-2003, 12:13 AM

I'm straight.

She is bi.

She thinks 2 men together is disgusting.

I think its pretty nasty too. This isn't being judgmental, I don't care what you do but I really don't want to see it. Its not homophobia, I am not afraid of gays or my sexuality, I just find male-male sex very unappealing. Sort of like watching the surgery channel before sex. Its not a good thing.

All of our swing partners to date have felt the same way (and no we didn't screen for it ahead of time).

I think you just have to accept that most people don't find two men together as an attractive thing, and they really don't want to see it. Now I know there are a lot of people who don't feel that way but it is apparently not enough of a % to sustain most swingers clubs.

You might feel this isn't fair, and its not, but its also not fair that I'm getting older, balding, and not nearly as attractive as I was 7 years ago. This is just something you have to accept and work around it.

Sex isn’t about fairness, but attraction. Its not fair that some men can walk into a bar and have women falling over them and others (like myself hehe) have to work for it. Its not fair that some women have a hard time keeping excess weight off, while others seem to do it effortlessly. Its also not fair that so many people don’t find two men involved in sex attractive, but that’s the way it is. If we went to a club where there was a lot of guy-guy sex going on, we would not feel comfortable and would not return. We wouldn’t ask the club to change, but would realize the club was not something we were interested in.

12-29-2003, 12:13 AM	#9 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,093 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	I'm straight. She is bi. She thinks 2 men together is disgusting. I think its pretty nasty too. This isn't being judgmental, I don't care what you do but I really don't want to see it. Its not homophobia, I am not afraid of gays or my sexuality, I just find male-male sex very unappealing. Sort of like watching the surgery channel before sex. Its not a good thing. All of our swing partners to date have felt the same way (and no we didn't screen for it ahead of time). I think you just have to accept that most people don't find two men together as an attractive thing, and they really don't want to see it. Now I know there are a lot of people who don't feel that way but it is apparently not enough of a % to sustain most swingers clubs. You might feel this isn't fair, and its not, but its also not fair that I'm getting older, balding, and not nearly as attractive as I was 7 years ago. This is just something you have to accept and work around it. Sex isn’t about fairness, but attraction. Its not fair that some men can walk into a bar and have women falling over them and others (like myself hehe) have to work for it. Its not fair that some women have a hard time keeping excess weight off, while others seem to do it effortlessly. Its also not fair that so many people don’t find two men involved in sex attractive, but that’s the way it is. If we went to a club where there was a lot of guy-guy sex going on, we would not feel comfortable and would not return. We wouldn’t ask the club to change, but would realize the club was not something we were interested in.