well....my 2 cents I guess. My wife and I are new as well and we have discussed a great number of "issues" regarding this very issue. While it excites us both to fantasize about the other with somebody other....we aren't sure how either of us will react in the moment. It seems that maybe your husband might have either not thought this through all the way or may have other motives that maybe he hasn't disscussed with you. How does he know for certain that he won't be the one freaking out when/if something happens? Seems to me that there is a definate step by step process that needs to happen. While neither of us have said no way to the full swap idea...niether of us want or expect it to happen on our first experience. Right now just the thought of playing around another couple in a sexually charged atmosphere does it for me. For her it's the thought of finally acting out some fantasies with another woman, whether it be full on going at it or just teasing the boys with the chance or thought of something happening. Of course eventually we would like to act on all of our thoughts but as in baseball you have to round first before you can go to second. I would be afraid of just jumping in with both feet. Too many things could go wrong, too many emotions to go through, ect. Good luck to you in your quest...as for us...at this point we'd just like to meet a couple and have dinner or something...lol |