.... fell into this lifestyle before we really discussed it. We certainly
did discuss it afterwards and set some pretty firm groundrules
(thread here) One of the things that I felt important was that it remain open (same room, etc) and this may in part be a way to deal with any possible jealousy that might arise; as long as I'm there or involved, it's an "us" experience, not a "her" experience. Perhaps this isn't the best way for everybody to approach this, but I think it'll work for us. L has offered to "share" me out to her girlfriend, but I refused because even with her permissin, I felt that it would be too much like cheating. Anyway, that's my 2.4 cents. soapbox
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