I agree, the seperate room thing really worries me. We are talking about perfect strangers here, you have never even spoken to them face to face. Sounds kind of dangerous.
Plus watching hubby and playing along side of him is such a big part of it for me. I personally don't even consider that swinging. That seems more like cheating with permission to me. But to each his own.
And if she was so chicken before, what has happened that she has suddenly gotten over her fear. I would worry that she is being pushed into something that she's not really sure about. I've read plenty of stories where once seperate one partner backs out, leaving someone disappointed.
I'd would have to insist on a face to face meeting prior to play, and same room.
Good luck in what ever you decide.
Roxy
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