Hmmmm...how do I put this delicately?
We are newbie swingers. We've been in the lifestyle just since this past summer. We have found it to be VERY difficult to find couples that we both are really attracted to. Either hubby likes her and I think that guy is a toad (which is usually the case) or on a rare occasion, I find the guy attractive and hubby doesn't think the wife is.
We've really had to settle and lower our standards significantly. I don't say that to come across as "holier than thou" or better than other people, because I don't think that we are. We are average people with a little extra meat on our bones and whatnot.
We have met many great people. People who's personalities more than make up for my lack of physical attraction to them. Although, since we've taken the plunge and have now had the handful of experiences, I told my husband that I wanted to wait until there was someone...anyone that REALLY did it for me before we do it again. It was funny because he said he was feeling the same way.
Good luck to you in your search. I hope that it's more fruitful than ours.
LC
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