Hi Turtles, and first, let me Welcome you to the board!
Now...I'm not part of a couple, and most assuredly not part of a virgin couple, and I broke out of my shell long ago...but shoot! It's a 'free' board, and I think I'll just answer for the heck of it.
As you've now discovered, the discussion of looks/appearances has been covered a million different ways, but nothing wrong with posting the question again. New people visit all the time and might have answers other than those previously written. And no, there is not a single thing in the world wrong with wanting your "new" first time to be something special and with a couple attractive to you. And, for that matter...nothing wrong with wanting all experiences to be something special.
Most of us are just average folks, looks-wise. Love handles, saggy breast, floppy fannies...large, small, and in-between. The most important thing is that you find others that make you feel good about yourselves and that you can relate to on the level you choose - be that an ongoing friendship or a single casual encounter. Quite frankly, I don't think Ken and Barbie exist except in our imaginations simply because we all have our own definitions of what is attractive to us. What might be my perfect Ken and Barbie might not be in the least attractive to you, and visa versa.
I think it's good ya'll have another baby on the way and that things are on hold for a while. That'll give you plenty of time to talk, read, ponder, question...and "get to know" people right here on this board. You'll find it is a great place for getting lots of ideas and opinions which in turn will help you sort out your own thoughts and feelings and decide if this lifestyle is really for ya'll. Either way...you will have learned somethings, and if what most couples say is true, you will strengthen your own relationship in the process of learning together.
Please don't ever hesitate to ask anything...even if it has been asked and answered before. We all change over time, and that includes our ideas and opinions on the various topics.
Again, Welcome to the board and we look forward to getting to know both of you!
- EBF