The Swingers Board - View Single Post - We're Average but we want Good Looking. Is this a double standard?

turtles · 12-19-2003, 08:42 PM

My wife and I are / were considering swinging a bit. Our background is that we were both virgins when we met and went out for over a year before having sex. She had one other boyfriend through high school, but I never even kissed another girl or woman. Just the result of rather strict and poor self-esteem for being 4.0 nerds in school.

We've been married for seven years and together for ten. We have one kid and another on the way, so things are on hold for a bit.

The double standard is this... We want our "new" first time to be special and with a really attractive couple, but we would only consider ourselves average.

We not over weight, or ugly, but not really stunning - you know? Breast feeding for a year has done quite a number on her breasts and she's a bit embarresed because they used to be perfect. I'm still on thin side, but getting love handles lately.

Is that really rude, or bad manners or anything? Do people stick to their own types or anything?

It's seems complicated in our heads by the fact that if it doesn't work out, we would have messed up a very unique and wonderful thing, so we want everything to be perfect.

Can anyone else relate to this situation?

12-19-2003, 08:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
turtles Registered Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 3 Location: Northern - MI Status: couple	We're Average but we want Good Looking. Is this a double standard? My wife and I are / were considering swinging a bit. Our background is that we were both virgins when we met and went out for over a year before having sex. She had one other boyfriend through high school, but I never even kissed another girl or woman. Just the result of rather strict and poor self-esteem for being 4.0 nerds in school. We've been married for seven years and together for ten. We have one kid and another on the way, so things are on hold for a bit. The double standard is this... We want our "new" first time to be special and with a really attractive couple, but we would only consider ourselves average. We not over weight, or ugly, but not really stunning - you know? Breast feeding for a year has done quite a number on her breasts and she's a bit embarresed because they used to be perfect. I'm still on thin side, but getting love handles lately. Is that really rude, or bad manners or anything? Do people stick to their own types or anything? It's seems complicated in our heads by the fact that if it doesn't work out, we would have messed up a very unique and wonderful thing, so we want everything to be perfect. Can anyone else relate to this situation?