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wrnakedru · 12-18-2003, 04:10 AM

I think definitely yes - you communicate anything that has happened with your SO. Because it begins to be something that is divisive to your relationship, rather than an enhancement of it, if you do not communicate.

And yes, as Mrs. O said, if it has been something of particular pleasure - I would think your SO would wish to know of it so that it could become a part of your lovemaking as well.

Anything different would make your activity seem to be a quest for comparative analysis - so that you could always say to each other "You're still the best!" And that's just plain dangerous to your relationship - - sometimes something may seem "better" just because it's with somebody different.

But if it truly IS something new and different, and it was a pleasure - - why not share the information, so it can be included in what the two of you do together? Wouldn't you want to know - if the situation were reversed? Rather than the prospect of him seeking out this particular partner because of that "unique" pleasure she had provided?

12-18-2003, 04:10 AM	#4 (permalink)
wrnakedru Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 1,989 Location: Bliss Status: Female	I think definitely yes - you communicate anything that has happened with your SO. Because it begins to be something that is divisive to your relationship, rather than an enhancement of it, if you do not communicate. And yes, as Mrs. O said, if it has been something of particular pleasure - I would think your SO would wish to know of it so that it could become a part of your lovemaking as well. Anything different would make your activity seem to be a quest for comparative analysis - so that you could always say to each other "You're still the best!" And that's just plain dangerous to your relationship - - sometimes something may seem "better" just because it's with somebody different. But if it truly IS something new and different, and it was a pleasure - - why not share the information, so it can be included in what the two of you do together? Wouldn't you want to know - if the situation were reversed? Rather than the prospect of him seeking out this particular partner because of that "unique" pleasure she had provided?