We started out softswing only.
That got us mentally ready for full swap.
It really ISN'T that big a deal, but until you are ready for it it will seem like a big deal. After our first full swap the only thing that kept me from being really jealous/uncomfortable was knowing I did the same to his wife so we were 'even'.
Now it doesn't bother me at all, but I would rate our marriage stronger now then it has ever been (and its always been very strong). |