I understand what your husband means; although I am almost certain most women do not.
I believe what he means is that he can have sex with another woman and it will have no effect on the relationship the two of you have. In other words, the commitment you two ahve to each other to get through this world together will be unaffected by sex with another woman for him. I am assuming his belief if that you would also be unaffected by sex with another man.
In many ways, it is a little unfair to me that the woman gets to have sex with the other woman while the man only watches. We did that a few times. At first it was fine with me since I was happy to be a part of the threesome. But I soon realized that it needed to be fun for me too.
My advice, don't be so quick to judge him and give a firm no without first completely understanding what he is really asking. Remember, men communicate in very different ways then women do. Make sure you are understanding exactly what he is saying.
If I can say this without getting my head bitten off, there may be a couple of other areas you may want to focus. If he is desiring sex with another woman, you may want to seriously question how good the sex is between the two of you. That statement may be his way of trying to find more satisfying sex.
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