what the hell are you doing on a site that promotes swinging if you have no interests. you seem to be full of crap, of course none of us swingers are in love with our spouse, right? wrong! we love our spouse well enough and have a stable, without jealousy, and open communication line to our souls. and if you really think about it, what is your wife secretly fantasizing about because she is afraid to share her views with you because you are so closed minded. maybe the first thought of swinging gives you the questionable fears, but if you think of it more than once then you certainly entertain the pleasures that are at your disposal. swinging is not a way to put notches on your belt, it is a way to give to your spouse the freedom to explore their fantasies by sharing them and enjoying them together. not just living a life that creates a fortress around your intimate feelings and desires. wake up! everyone can be like everyone else but to share your entire life and most secret desires and maybe even expeience a few of them together down the line is a great way to keep that flame burning high, not just a flicker, and also builds a strong and lasting relationship unshakable by mistrust and betryal. get a life and live a little.