As usual, the thoughts and advice on this board are well-reasoned and appreciated more than you guys can possibly realize. I thought I'd respond to just a couple of the comments. Sexypairca, you recommended discussing boundaries with this couple in a sober setting. Well, that happened the next day too as well. We called them just to make sure that they were OK with everything and had a great conversation with them as well. All 4 of us agreed that while it had been fun that ground rules were an absolute necessity, along with only 1/3 the alcohol next time HA. So we agreed that the next time we get together we'll talk BEFORE anything happens and rope out the boundaries. Bob and Sandy, I take your advice to heart as well and thank you for it. Do I seriously think that my wife would leave me or start something on the side? When I take a breath and calm down about it, absolutely not. We've been together for 9 wonderful years, and there's never been a hint, not one hint, on the part of either of us that we could or would ever stray. As the others pointed out, I think that what I was feeling was the natural byproduct of an incredibly unusual and unanticipated situation that basically just started my neurons jangling all over the place. With talking and communication I think everything will be fine. That being said, however, I fully realize that we are doing the effective equivalent of walking around with a live bomb in our hands - one wrong move, or walk too fast with it, and it could blow up in our faces. Thanks so much everyone for taking the time to respond - you've helped immeasurably and I truly appreciate it.
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