ricndi032903 said "And even though I know I'll be slammed again for daring to say this, but somebody does, "almost" every woman in this lifestyle began by wanting to do this for their men, to make them happy, rather that then have them cheat.... they surely didn't get into this by their own choices.
It's goes this way, realistly, how many choices do we have, cheat? swing? cheat? swing? Cheat. face the unknown, swing, know what you really don't wanna know. But make the best of it.
Or just be a happy couple who is satisfied and content with the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with."
OK......Hi, this is Amy. I really get confused by some of what people say here. Now I dont really know any swingers and their views (hubby and I are only curious at this point), but I can say that for me, all of the above is NOT true! It was me, not Mike who started talking openly about fantasies involving other people once I got the feeling that he would feel comfortable talking about it. That led to us thinking about maybe we would want to act on it.
I dont understand why you think that only non-swingers are "satisfied and content with the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with." We ARE a happy couple and are totally satisfied with each other! You say "It's goes this way, realistly, how many choices do we have, cheat? swing? cheat? swing? Cheat. face the unknown, swing, know what you really don't wanna know. But make the best of it. " But why do you think these are the only choices? I would never cheat on Mike and I don't think he'd ever cheat on me. That was never the reason we brought this up! We brought it up because we both get excited by the idea. I feel bad for you if your just going along with what your husband wants because your afraid that he'll cheat on you if you don't. That sounds like a dysfunctional relationship to me. |