The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How can I open her to the idea of swinging?

OhioCouple · 12-15-2003, 02:49 PM

ricndi032903,

I took the opportunity to scroll through a few of your past postings. I shall assume that this is the female half of your couple, based on the inital posting of yours which can be found HERE. All of your postings seem to be based on negativity for the lifestyle. What may be repulsive to you, isn't to the majority of people who post here. And that is cool, cause swinging is not for everyone, nor does anyone here try to coerce another into it. We all give opinions based on our own experiences and you can choose to draw your own conclusions as to what is right for you. No one can determine that for you, just as you cannot determine it for any of us.

I think that it is pretty tasteless that you resorted to using EBF as an example as being one that has nothing to lose. She has everything to lose, as much as you or I do. I can't speak for all swinging females as I've only met one, and that one person is EBF, so I've no others to compare her to, however... She is as much like any of the rest of us, couples or singles that know the guidelines for swinging and has a healthy mind set. Not to say that she couldn't fall for someone, but for that matter, I couldn't say that about myself either. Again, equals in that comparison, however both of us have the healthy knowledge to know that should something like that ever begin to stir, we would back out of the situation, immediately and entirely. Swingers aren't out to break up relationships, they seek to only enhance them, and that isn't something you have quite yet grasped.

I'm sorry that your experience many years ago left a sour taste in your mouth, but remember, that is your opionion of how it was for you and doesn't speak for the rest of us.

It sounds to me as if you have major communication problems in your marriage that you need to work on and the 'push and shove' between the two, which needs immediate attention. That is something that we can't help you with here. You have to take that first step yourselves.

Mrs. O

12-15-2003, 02:49 PM	#20 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	ricndi032903, I took the opportunity to scroll through a few of your past postings. I shall assume that this is the female half of your couple, based on the inital posting of yours which can be found HERE. All of your postings seem to be based on negativity for the lifestyle. What may be repulsive to you, isn't to the majority of people who post here. And that is cool, cause swinging is not for everyone, nor does anyone here try to coerce another into it. We all give opinions based on our own experiences and you can choose to draw your own conclusions as to what is right for you. No one can determine that for you, just as you cannot determine it for any of us. I think that it is pretty tasteless that you resorted to using EBF as an example as being one that has nothing to lose. She has everything to lose, as much as you or I do. I can't speak for all swinging females as I've only met one, and that one person is EBF, so I've no others to compare her to, however... She is as much like any of the rest of us, couples or singles that know the guidelines for swinging and has a healthy mind set. Not to say that she couldn't fall for someone, but for that matter, I couldn't say that about myself either. Again, equals in that comparison, however both of us have the healthy knowledge to know that should something like that ever begin to stir, we would back out of the situation, immediately and entirely. Swingers aren't out to break up relationships, they seek to only enhance them, and that isn't something you have quite yet grasped. I'm sorry that your experience many years ago left a sour taste in your mouth, but remember, that is your opionion of how it was for you and doesn't speak for the rest of us. It sounds to me as if you have major communication problems in your marriage that you need to work on and the 'push and shove' between the two, which needs immediate attention. That is something that we can't help you with here. You have to take that first step yourselves. Mrs. O __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.