The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How can I open her to the idea of swinging?

ricndi032903 · 12-15-2003, 01:15 PM

Well it seems that "Elusive BiFem" doesn't like what I had to say, OH WELL, she has nothing to loose, no SO to leave or have leave HER. But then again, maybe she'll "fall in love with someones SO" like Sadie did. Or maybe a few more marriages will end due to someones over eagerness at trying to "get the wife/husband" into this, when the word NO is not taken seriously.

And it's true, if each person in the commited relationship are truely happy and content in that relationship and NOTHING is lacking, then there is NO reason to go outside of the relationship on the PYHSICAL level, for sexual satisfaction.

The wife or husband has EVERY right to refuse to consider this lifestyle if they feel it's intruding on his or her right to a loving, yet faithful relationship.

While communicating is great, but if there is any objection to a certain topic, then that topic should be off limits in the act of persuing.

You may have have a passion for swinging, but the real passion should be about your wife or husband. Not your fantacies.

And even though I know I'll be slammed again for daring to say this, but somebody does, "almost" every woman in this lifestyle began by wanting to do this for their men, to make them happy, rather that then have them cheat.... they surely didn't get into this by their own choices.

It's goes this way, realistly, how many choices do we have, cheat? swing? cheat? swing? Cheat. face the unknown, swing, know what you really don't wanna know. But make the best of it.

Or just be a happy couple who is satisfied and content with the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Ya know people, that's not such a bad thing......

12-15-2003, 01:15 PM	#15 (permalink)
ricndi032903 Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 30 Location: PA Status: Couple	watching it destroy your life Well it seems that "Elusive BiFem" doesn't like what I had to say, OH WELL, she has nothing to loose, no SO to leave or have leave HER. But then again, maybe she'll "fall in love with someones SO" like Sadie did. Or maybe a few more marriages will end due to someones over eagerness at trying to "get the wife/husband" into this, when the word NO is not taken seriously. And it's true, if each person in the commited relationship are truely happy and content in that relationship and NOTHING is lacking, then there is NO reason to go outside of the relationship on the PYHSICAL level, for sexual satisfaction. The wife or husband has EVERY right to refuse to consider this lifestyle if they feel it's intruding on his or her right to a loving, yet faithful relationship. While communicating is great, but if there is any objection to a certain topic, then that topic should be off limits in the act of persuing. You may have have a passion for swinging, but the real passion should be about your wife or husband. Not your fantacies. And even though I know I'll be slammed again for daring to say this, but somebody does, "almost" every woman in this lifestyle began by wanting to do this for their men, to make them happy, rather that then have them cheat.... they surely didn't get into this by their own choices. It's goes this way, realistly, how many choices do we have, cheat? swing? cheat? swing? Cheat. face the unknown, swing, know what you really don't wanna know. But make the best of it. Or just be a happy couple who is satisfied and content with the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Ya know people, that's not such a bad thing......