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We've been together for 8 years and I'd really like to add a little spice to our sex life. The idea of swinging or checking out swing clubs is a major turn-on for me
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Many points have been made already about communication, and here's another one, with a different twist.
Why do you want to add a little spice? Is there something lacking? Does your wife even know this? She may think every thing is fine and dandy! Simply just discussing this aspect, you may not even "need" to get into swinging to spice it up--there may be some ideas that she has to spice it up as well that could be just as enticing...
Swinging
is not for everyone. If it was, we'd be in FREAKING UTOPIA, BABY!!!!
Talk, talk, talk, and talk some more. Don't ever stop communicating, even if you think things are absolutely fine.
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Unlike most guys, my reasons aren't so I can screw another lady..
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Where did you get this from? You are not in the lifestyle and you assume this is the reason that "most guys" are in the lifestyle? I don't think this is exactly true--for us, it's a combination of the spice that drives our sex life through the roof, meeting new people that share like interests, and the sexual portion of it is just icing on the cake! Don't get me wrong--having sex with another woman is WONDERFUL!! But it's not the "reason" I am in it---I truly believe that being in the lifestyle was driven by both of us to make a strong marriage that much stronger.......and has improved our commitment and voraciousness for each other....
Sorry, I am sure this was said tongue in cheek, but this stood out in this post...so I thought I'd just throw my ten cents in, keep the change...
Tim