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With that, I would advise that you simply slow down a bit
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Absolutely EBF. Here's how I was introduced to this by a LONG gone partner long ago:
Him: You can have sex with other men if you like.
Me: What??
One month later.....
Him: What if I met a woman and wanted to have sex with her?
Me: What?? (heart stops, self esteem shoots right to the floor)
I'd suggest, Shinjovial, that you proceed much more slowly and cautiously than &%$# did. If it's truly something you want to do with her, then let her discover for herself if it's something she's interested in. Knee jerk reaction, especially in a previously sexually monogamous relationship, is NO!! and a lot of hurt.
That's not a good start. And it may be the end. Back up, be sensitive, respect what you already have, and very very very gently and kindly and no pressure talk about sex...not 'your' fantasies.