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Originally posted by ricndi032903
So why don't you just be a real man and be satisfied with what you have and be happy. |
Because he is interested in swinging and she isn't, he isn't a "real man?" So what does that make all the other men that post on this board? Those that love their wives, yet enjoy sharing their sexuality with others and their wives? Something less than real men?
While I am in total agreement with VegasLee in his statement that swinging is NOT for everyone, I think that advising Shinjovial to simply dismiss his interest in the lifestyle does absolutely nothing to help him, or her for that matter, resolve the dilemma they have found themselves in. And frankly, I can't help but wonder if your statements are not on the self-serving side and not really intended to benefit the poster.
Shinjovial, I believe the other posters are correct also, in their assessments of possible communication issues. Afterall, your interest and desires should have equal weight in this relationship, at least to the point where your SO would be at least willing to
discuss the subject. With that, I would advise that you simply slow down a bit and maybe invite her to this board with you...to see that there is much more to swinging and the relationships that are formed - here and in person - than merely sex. Maybe you need to refine your approach to this woman.
If you haven't already done so, look through the forum on New Swingers and you may find lots of information that will help you initiate communication on the subject. If nothing else, being able to share the fantasy would spice up your sex lives.
- EBF
