Hi Chickster, welcome. My wife and I consider ourselves relatively new, and have only been doing "soft swinging" for a year. The most important thing is that you are both on the same page. His being angry with you "putting restrictions" is unreasonable. You MUST establish guidelines and if you aren't 100% comfortable with them, there will be aftermath. Jealousy will arise, and if you don't talk it out, it could very well ruin your relationship. Just realize, there is nothing at all that says the first time you "swing" you have to swap. "Same room sex" is a very erotic experience with another couple. My wife and I love watching another couple have sex in front of us. We never swap, although the ladies engage in some play with each other. Just sitting back and watching is awesome too. Don't get in over your head by jumping into anything you're not completely comfortable with. You'd be surprised what happens though in the heat of the encounter. You may be so turned on, you may actually do things (or allow things) that you would never think to do while driving to the store. That can be dangerous. Regret after an encounter will cause a lot of problems. So make sure the rules are followed regardless. There are many other opportunities. |