LOL I completely agree with the last poster. Don't let it consume your life or make it your quest. Make do with what you have and enjoy it. Now, if this is any help, let me give you a few suggestions:
My wife, who probably would have been the last person to ever want to try this, (at least that's how I felt when I met her) has warmed up quite well to soft swinging. I honestly have no desire to watch her with another man. I love watching her with other women, and she loves being with them as well. I introduced her to the scene by watching porno movies with her. It took many trips to the video store to find out what really turned her on. I noticed she loved (read:got really wet) watching the all girl/ solo girl videos. So the topic eventually came up about her being with another woman. She at first totally dismissed the idea. After a year or so, she suggested she'd like to maybe try it. After ANOTHER year, she started pointing out the women in clubs she would like to possibly be with. Then 6 months later, we had our first experience with another couple and she fufilled the fantasy. We have been with this other couple regularly for a year now, and it's been a blast. So, the bottom line is, live your life, see if she gets into any specific videos (try group sex, f/f, all of them) and then talk openly. It might happen, it might not. But either way, don't let it consume your every waking moment. Have great sex with each other first.
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