Well, Shinjovial, I think your problem is communication, not swinging. Are there any other subjects that you and your wife don't seem to be able to talk about without arguing?
When Mrs. Alura and I first met we discussed the importance of being able to talk about any subject (in depth!) without fear of the other getting angry and holding our opinions against us. We promised each other that we would always listen with an open mind, express our opinions, but never, ever, get angry because a question was asked. I think that's the main reason that in (almost) twenty-four years together, we've never had a shouting argument and never gone to bed angry with each other.
I guess we can safely say we're in love, but I question whether that feeling would ever have come to be without our agreement to always communicate.
Mr. Alura
|