The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How can I open her to the idea of swinging?

Shinjovial · 12-13-2003, 12:02 PM

We've been together for 8 years and I'd really like to add a little spice to our sex life. The idea of swinging or checking out swing clubs is a major turn-on for me. Unlike most guys, my reasons aren't so I can screw another lady. While that would be pleasurable, the idea of watching her with someone else sets my loins on fire.
I've tried to get her to talk about it, checking out a club, placing an online ad, etc. I've made it clear that there is no commitment to any particular action or contact with anyone else. If that happens-great. If it doesn't, then at least we've opened our eyes to the possibility somewhere down the road. If nothing else, the excitment would ignite the flames between us.
I truly love and respect her-i tell her often.
However, she does not want to discuss or even play with the idea of swinging. When I express that the desire to swing is part of who I am, she states that she doesn't like that part of me and the discussion ends.
Any advice? Assuming that I don't drop the topic and deny my desires, how can I open her to the idea of swinging?

12-13-2003, 12:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
Shinjovial Registered Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Florida Status: Couple	How can I open her to the idea of swinging? We've been together for 8 years and I'd really like to add a little spice to our sex life. The idea of swinging or checking out swing clubs is a major turn-on for me. Unlike most guys, my reasons aren't so I can screw another lady. While that would be pleasurable, the idea of watching her with someone else sets my loins on fire. I've tried to get her to talk about it, checking out a club, placing an online ad, etc. I've made it clear that there is no commitment to any particular action or contact with anyone else. If that happens-great. If it doesn't, then at least we've opened our eyes to the possibility somewhere down the road. If nothing else, the excitment would ignite the flames between us. I truly love and respect her-i tell her often. However, she does not want to discuss or even play with the idea of swinging. When I express that the desire to swing is part of who I am, she states that she doesn't like that part of me and the discussion ends. Any advice? Assuming that I don't drop the topic and deny my desires, how can I open her to the idea of swinging?