First off, Welcome to the board Chickster!
Secondly, let us reiterate what Alura and xlr8tr&A have said. There are plenty of folks out there who don't go as far as swapping partners for intercourse, and it's a perfectly acceptable state of affairs. There are those who might press you to go further via a number of strategies, but at the end of the day, regardless of what others say or think, you must only go as far as you are comfortable with, and no further.
Which brings us to the subject of your husband. He must respect the fact that you view intercourse in a different light to him. Respecting the boundaries of others is, together with open and honest communication, one of the key factors in successfully integrating yourselves into this lifestyle. IOHO, his nixing the whole idea of you bringing other people into your sex life is a rather petulant reaction. The reality is, he’s actually spiting himself as well as you, since there is a great deal of pleasure to be had from soft-swinging encounters.
To put our advice in some sort of context, we’re soft-swingers ourselves, and just like you, we each have a different take on the relevance of intercourse. However, we allow our pace to be determined by the slowest person, which is why we’re still enjoying our encounters with other people. And as Alura points out, with some experience under your belts, who knows where you might end up?
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