 Not your problem
Chixster, welcome (from some newbies too) to the board. We have no experience with actually swinging, we are in the talking stage too, but it sounds like he has the wrong idea what this is about. If A (my wife) told me that for right now she was only comfortable with oral or fondling or whatever , but no intercourse, I would be "Woohooo - OK" with that because we get to experience something new and exciting together. I respect her boundaries, as I would expect her to respect mine. I really can't understand why he would get upset with you, other than he is acting very selfishly and not respecting your boundaries. From the great information we have gotten here, moving at the pace of the slowest person is the key, and he doesn't seem to get that. If I was in your shoes, I would have HIM read alot here on this board, talk about what you read, but if he keeps saying its all or nothing, then HE is definitley not ready for this, which means as a couple YOUR not ready for this. My rather inexperienced $.02. Good luck!!! X&A |