Thanks for the advice!
I've done my best to let him know he can enjoy his time and does *not* need his member up to have fun. I've told him its not expected, to just relax and enjoy... but I don't think he's listening to me
Because everytime afterwards there is the inevitable "this night was just awesome except for...." and I SO want to help him out... I can't convince him that he doesn't need his penis, I think he feels left out because everyone else is getting theirs, so to speak, and he isn't...
And I don't think its the "new people" nerves, the specific people we are playing with right now we have been playing with for 8 months. They are local so we get together fairly regularly...
Ahhhh I'm trying and I'm being supportive, I just hope that once he gets his medical insurance that he can get viagra and that it *helps*... Since the problem is all in his mind (he works just fine alone) I'm not sure viagra will help, unless it just gives him some mental confidence!
Thanks everyone for the input!