I was terrified I would have that same problem, and I did temporarily at our first swing party. I was sooooooo nervous that before the party even started, I asked Cindy to give me a brief blowjob to make sure it still worked. It did.
But then came the other couple aspect. At first I could not get it up, and I put my mind into action and started thinking of other stuff while concentrating on the physical enjoyment that I was experiencing. And then I got lucky, and it started working.
I am not sure if he's tried something like this or not. I hope some others can offer some suggestions as well.
good luck
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