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Old 12-08-2003, 11:10 AM   #1 (permalink)
curious brenda
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Unhappy I am so frustrated by his behavior

hello,
I am so confused about what is going on with our attempts to be into an alternative lifestyle. We have been together for over 3 and half years. We met when I had been single and free and was into swinging on my own and he on his own. We had a few experiences with mfm and then as time went on we became a full time couple.
I told him that I was interested in experimenting with another female and that he could join. I am open to trying it to see, how eles will I know. I am also into trying a swinging with another couple and lots of othere senerios.
First he says that another female is great , but he does not want any other man involved. He is not interested in men he says.
Then the next day he says well another couple would be great, and then I hear from him that he doesn't want another male.
How will this work?
Plus the fetishes all involve women. So where does this leave me? I am willing to be adventurous and make him feel awesome with another female. Actually last weekend I did just that, but her partner was participating too.
So he wants us to get into the 'lifestyle', but what about me? I have a feeling even though we both enjoy sex, that this will turn out to be onesided. The fact that one moment he says another couple and the next say only females.
He also told me that he doesn't need me to get what he want and that he can find lots of women who will cater to him without needing to bring in another male. And to top that off he said too that I am only average and not dropdead gorgous and that any ugly whore can pick up men for fun, but it takes a 'special' man to be able to attract to females.
He said no males and if I do not want to participate then forget it, but then says that he want to swing with me and it would be nice to meet another couple.
I just want to have fun with other people who enjoy sex and explore.
I am so frustrated by his behaviour!
I know this is strange and I should probably know the answer on my own, but is this confusion normal?