The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Where are the normal, attractive swingers (was: Unattractive Swingers)

leftcoastcouple · 12-04-2003, 09:58 PM

Mr. Peepers, I gotta hand it to you, you certainly weren't shy asking about what was on your mind. And I thank you for that, because I have to admit, six months ago, I'd have WANTED to ask the same thing (as I'm sure many others do now)!

At that point, I'd picked up a few swingers' magazines, prowled through some personals, watched shows like "Real Sex"...that sort of thing. Worst of all, I'd bought a book from Amazon (their highest-rated swingers' title at the time) called "Recreational Sex : An Insider's Guide to the Swinging Lifestyle," and when I got to the pictures...well, my thoughts were the same as yours, frankly--it was like something out of a early-80s porn movie. Big hair, bad makeup, outdated hair and clothes...you get the picture.

BUT, last summer, I stumbled on to this site (which immediately broke many of my stereotypes), learned that some rather friends of mine and my wife's were into swinging (which did the same and got me hot as hell to boot), and found Adult Friend Finder. Browse the photos on the latter, and I guarantee your stereotypes will be shattered. If anything, as a slightly-above-average 40ish couple (no ego there, just being honest), my wife and I feel intimidated by many of the folks we've encountered on AFF, and though we've yet to swing, we've turned down--for better or worse--invitations to meet up with some of the couples who've approached us simply because we felt they were clearly out of our league in the looks department. And, to answer another of your stereotypes, we're frequently considered "too old" by some of the whippersnappers in their 20s and early 30s. Ah, the pain!

At the same time, to some of the other comments, my wife and I quite like the PTA crowd--of which we are proud and willing members--and find "average" folks more attractive overall than "Ken and Barbie" types. While neither of us would turn down the "right" couple of 10s, there's just something about "normal" women who are down to earth and lacking in the "attitude" department (Can you say "MILF?") that really gets me going, and my wife will similarly take a "nice guy" over an egotistical Adonis any day.

So what's stopping us? We just need to get over our jitters and work out a few remaining issues before taking the plunge. But trust me, there is a balance to be had, and plenty of candidates as well. You just have to know where to look!

12-04-2003, 09:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
leftcoastcouple She's a lurker; he's not Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 199 Location: Earthquake country Status: Married Couple (But mostly Mr.)	Mr. Peepers, I gotta hand it to you, you certainly weren't shy asking about what was on your mind. And I thank you for that, because I have to admit, six months ago, I'd have WANTED to ask the same thing (as I'm sure many others do now)! At that point, I'd picked up a few swingers' magazines, prowled through some personals, watched shows like "Real Sex"...that sort of thing. Worst of all, I'd bought a book from Amazon (their highest-rated swingers' title at the time) called "Recreational Sex : An Insider's Guide to the Swinging Lifestyle," and when I got to the pictures...well, my thoughts were the same as yours, frankly--it was like something out of a early-80s porn movie. Big hair, bad makeup, outdated hair and clothes...you get the picture. BUT, last summer, I stumbled on to this site (which immediately broke many of my stereotypes), learned that some rather friends of mine and my wife's were into swinging (which did the same and got me hot as hell to boot), and found Adult Friend Finder. Browse the photos on the latter, and I guarantee your stereotypes will be shattered. If anything, as a slightly-above-average 40ish couple (no ego there, just being honest), my wife and I feel intimidated by many of the folks we've encountered on AFF, and though we've yet to swing, we've turned down--for better or worse--invitations to meet up with some of the couples who've approached us simply because we felt they were clearly out of our league in the looks department. And, to answer another of your stereotypes, we're frequently considered "too old" by some of the whippersnappers in their 20s and early 30s. Ah, the pain! At the same time, to some of the other comments, my wife and I quite like the PTA crowd--of which we are proud and willing members--and find "average" folks more attractive overall than "Ken and Barbie" types. While neither of us would turn down the "right" couple of 10s, there's just something about "normal" women who are down to earth and lacking in the "attitude" department (Can you say "MILF?") that really gets me going, and my wife will similarly take a "nice guy" over an egotistical Adonis any day. So what's stopping us? We just need to get over our jitters and work out a few remaining issues before taking the plunge. But trust me, there is a balance to be had, and plenty of candidates as well. You just have to know where to look!