I thought you could not touch them either, just ask the club what the rules are, each one is a bit different. I thought I would laugh and be embarrassed, but I closed my eyes and felt the sensation, the music, and was surprised the different level of sexuality and eroticism (sp) it brought. About seeing my husband pleasure another woman, I have had to visualize this big time, however if we swing (we have not to date) we are starting verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry slow, many dates and first time will be watching and being watched. I may never get to the full swap, I am going to continue as long as I and my husband are enjoying the sexual horizon and not one little bit more. I am finding that I go outside of a prior non comfort zone let hubby know I am okay for another step and then opps, he has to process that, some things he thought he was okay with, we have changed our rules boundaries and where I was the last one in on stuff, we reevaluateing to both our comfort levels, and I'm no longer last to be ready on everything (just most everything!) Heh keep in touch, being a newbie, I am watching the other newbies for help. |