Boy, EBF, thought I was gonna make it to Texas before you got back on!!
First a note to J&B in NJ and the Mrs.. Usually we DO stay in the same room during our play sessions, unfortunately the one time the wife of the other couple whose house we were at brings me in to the kitchen for more than food, was when Mrs. got bounced around. Generally even as an "experienced" couple we do stay together. What fun is it to experience things together if we're apart? The only time we are comfortable playing apart is a certain party we go to about every 3 weeks where we know most of the people and have no worries about not being "covered" by someone else. Our regular friends cover for us.
In fact, as has been discussed on this board, The Mrs. is NOT bi. At the last party we attended, some of the people we did not know were encouraging a new female to go down on Mrs. One of the other regular members stopped that from happening without the Mrs or myself knowing about it until later.
Now, back to getting started. We had been to several hotel parties and even met some couples prior to going to this house party we now frequent. However we had no idea what this house party was going to be like and had only met the couple who introduced us to this once. In general, we knew people went to have sex, that was about all.
We went. Immediately we were suprised to walk in to a house in the middle of town to find a lot of people naked. Some were even having sex right in the middle of the living room floor. This was all rather new to us. We were introduced, and asked our preferences. Other than that it was kinda like "Let the sex begin!".
Of course it ended up we have become friends with the regulars and the hosts, and had a blast.
My point here is I've IM'ed a few people here and many people on yahoo who talk forever and keep wishing. Some here who are still newbies have pm'ed me and said they've been on here forever and still have not swung. Even J&B in NJ above said they have studied this and are concerned with how the others will feel about newbies. We have been with newbies where it was successfuland with others where it was not. We've met some for lunch or dinner who were not ready and still had a good dinner. Were we upset that "newbies did it again" ? No. We were newbies once also and understand the unique feelings that come with something like this. We would gladly answer any questions newbies have, either over IM or a good dinner. If they feel they are ready, wonderful!! If not, hope you had fun anyway, and we met new interesting people at the same time.
Personaly,I would rather "Go for the Gusto!" and have the experience, whether good or bad. In one case I will really enjoy it, in the other it will be a good lesson. Nothing can be a total mistake if you've learned from it.
Sorry for my long novel here, its the only way I could get my point across.
BTW, lov ya EB
Mr. hmr