It happens to just about everybody, especially if you don't have a lot of experience having sex with new people and with an audience. One of the relatively recent threads on this subject is about the same thing happening to me. It's really not a big deal if you don't make a big deal of it. It seems that most of the women in the lifestyle are aware that it can be a problem for men, especially those of us that are new to everything.
Three big things helped for me:
1) Always fuck your own wife first. You are comfortable with her and familiar with her, and your own wife will get you going. You get confidence from seeing that everything is working, and once the mood is firmly sexual, you're there, it's easy to transfer that to another girl.
2) If you're not used to having sex in front of other people, then it can be rough even with your own wife. In that case try Viagra, there's nothing wrong with using it, and that's what the stuff is designed for after all.
3) Relax, it's just fun. Nobody will think less of you if you have problems once or twice, or even a few times. The more relaxed you are about everything, the more likely you are to be able to do your thing.
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