Ok, so there is only one rule commonly agreed to in swinging: Everyone makes up their own rules.
In other activities we participate in there are parameters we have to follow otherwise we get fired, black balled, ostracized or asked to turn in our key. In swinging we do whatever we want to anyone anytime. You could have a rule to agree to someone else's rules just to get laid and you can still say you are a swinger.
So anyone can call themselves a swinger, as long as they have their own rules.
No wonder there is lots of confusion in this lifestyle!
