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MrYaWanna · 11-23-2003, 12:16 PM

Here's a question for the board. Mrs. and I were discussing swinging and the lack of commonly, universally accepted rules or guidelines. We landed in an odd sort of spot. If there is not a single definition of swinging that a large group of people agree with, does swinging exist?

Let's look at other accepted "things". Marriage: Two People, married according to the laws of the land. Set up house together, Love, Honour and Cherish. Society understands this, accepts this therefore it exists. You can stand on the street corner and say "we're married" and people get it.

Hockey: Five skaters and one goaltender per team, three 20 minute periods. A goal is scored when the puck crosses the goal line in between the posts. Again, we can stand up in a bar and say "How's it goin eh? I play hockey!" People get it, they understand it and wonder to themselves how many of this guy's teeth are his.

Swinging: It's married couples playing with married couples only. The couple is monogamous in their emotional relationship, but not so sexually. Swinging is not a "must have" thing in their relationship, it's an extra, an enhancement they both enjoy and agree to. They always play together in the same room. It's a couple, not necessarily married, playing with the same. It's a couple, both cheating on their spouses playing with other people. It's a couple banging a single cause they like that. It's a couple hooking up with a single because they don't satisfy each other and need a 3rd to get there. It's a group of people all naked and playing in a Hot Tub, they don't even know any other person's name. It's a couple where one of the two is using the other just to have sex with as many people possible, with no regard to any one's relationship, even their own. It's a couple who play separately with each other's permission and knowledge. I'm sure there are more possible definitions, but I think I've made my point. So you stand on the rooftop and shout "I'm a Swinger". “Hmmm...what does that mean?” your neighbour says.

Because we can't agree on what swinging is, does it exist? How can something exist if it can't be defined? (Think back to Philosophy courses folks)

Maybe swinging does not exist. What do you think? Have I had too much coffee today?

11-23-2003, 12:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
MrYaWanna Has Left the Building Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 54 Location: Ontario Status: Couple	Does Swinging Exist? Here's a question for the board. Mrs. and I were discussing swinging and the lack of commonly, universally accepted rules or guidelines. We landed in an odd sort of spot. If there is not a single definition of swinging that a large group of people agree with, does swinging exist? Let's look at other accepted "things". Marriage: Two People, married according to the laws of the land. Set up house together, Love, Honour and Cherish. Society understands this, accepts this therefore it exists. You can stand on the street corner and say "we're married" and people get it. Hockey: Five skaters and one goaltender per team, three 20 minute periods. A goal is scored when the puck crosses the goal line in between the posts. Again, we can stand up in a bar and say "How's it goin eh? I play hockey!" People get it, they understand it and wonder to themselves how many of this guy's teeth are his. Swinging: It's married couples playing with married couples only. The couple is monogamous in their emotional relationship, but not so sexually. Swinging is not a "must have" thing in their relationship, it's an extra, an enhancement they both enjoy and agree to. They always play together in the same room. It's a couple, not necessarily married, playing with the same. It's a couple, both cheating on their spouses playing with other people. It's a couple banging a single cause they like that. It's a couple hooking up with a single because they don't satisfy each other and need a 3rd to get there. It's a group of people all naked and playing in a Hot Tub, they don't even know any other person's name. It's a couple where one of the two is using the other just to have sex with as many people possible, with no regard to any one's relationship, even their own. It's a couple who play separately with each other's permission and knowledge. I'm sure there are more possible definitions, but I think I've made my point. So you stand on the rooftop and shout "I'm a Swinger". “Hmmm...what does that mean?” your neighbour says. Because we can't agree on what swinging is, does it exist? How can something exist if it can't be defined? (Think back to Philosophy courses folks) Maybe swinging does not exist. What do you think? Have I had too much coffee today?