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Originally posted by Elusive BiFem
it came up...if I understood this correctly, that some couples enter into swinging without researching it in any way? TNT said something about some of them don't even know they can say, "NO!" All along, my assumption has been that even newbies, meaning inexperienced, to me, had some basic knowledge of swinging.
...1. Before your first club and/or play date experience, did you and your SO discuss swinging in any detail? Mind sharing some of the discussion material?...
5. Any other information you would care to share?
Thanks - EBF |
We can't imagine stumbling into something as involved as swinging without some facts. As armchair psychologists we wanted to know the who/what/where/why and hows of the topic and where we fit in the overall scheme of things. That way our first and subsequent encounters were great experiences. The level of research people persue depends on their desire for knowledge in general. People research purchases; cars, consumer goods, vacation plans, etc., why not subjective issues? Typing in "Human Sexuality" and hitting the search button yeilds enough info to persue a doctorate.
Here are a few of our saved links:
Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality Society for Human Sexuality The Swinging Life
And a VERY cool image bank of various charts on anatomy, behaviour, surveys, etc.:
Human Sexuality Image Bank
Our opinion on newbie advice:
First do some research so you know why you want /feel/act the way you do. If you discuss it with your SO you won't start out with emotional baggage. That way a lot of the general questions are answered so you can get to specific questions about the local/regional lifestyles.
For what it's worth.
Bob & Annie
Quote:
Ipsa scientia potestas est.
Knowledge itself is power.
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