Like many couples - we just fell into it as one of those "how the he11 did that happen?" events.
Our first experience was an MMF, the result of just cutting up one day with a friend. It started with a flash of the breasts and ended with a lot of fun.
Our next two experiences were very similar -- 1) FMF where a friend and I woke him up after I asked her "do you want on his lap or face" as a joke and she said "I'll take his face..." 2) an MFMF when the playmate from our first MMF brought his GF over and our experiences became the topic of conversation followed by fun...
In all three of those encounters -- "it just happened" -- we did talk about it afterwards and even established some basic rules. We didn't know it was "swinging" as such -- it was simply sharing with friends....
Each became regular forms of entertainment but never really as the purpose of getting together -- in that, I mean that while we each often found the bedroom, we rarely got together just to have sex.
It wasn't until about 2 years after we had gotten started that we realized there were "resources" for discussion. In the meantime, we learned about our own rules as we went along.
It was a long time before we actually went looking for a playmate. Even now, we most often prefer it to "just happen" and not to be the result of "looking for sex".
So, we didn't do any research because there wasn't (prior to the events) any expectation that they would occur. We did talk about our feelings after each -- and established some ground rules. Of course, since we weren't "looking for it" there was always the oppertunity to stop the action at any point.
I think that had we discussed it all prior and then set out to make it happen -- it never would have happened. We both would have chickened out. The way it began, it just happened.
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