They will post it soon. It will be on the thread that mentions the live chatt!!
We personally wouldnt mind newbies. No one really knows what to expect at first. Or what they will be comfy with and as time goes on that changes so....My problem would be with a couple who never even researched anything or sets boundries. Someone who just jumped into the lifestyle without even thinking about it. As for inexperianced ....no biggy...Hell we all had to start somewhere. We are the type that doesnt expect everyone to rush into this....pace isnt a big deal with us. If a couple wanted to move slow fine with us....We always stress to all we play with to move at the slowest persons pace and always say if you dont like something or dont feel comfy...We have never been into the clubing and parties. We like to get to know someone first. Not saying that those that go to clubs and parties are wrong that is just their style. Everyone has a different idea what they want out of this.
Amy and Mike....You are doing the right thing by talking about it. Always be open about your thoughts it helps alot!!! Find couples that are willing to go at your pace. I know when we started there were things that i didnt feel comfy with that now i do. It takes time to get used to the idea of another woman kissing and haveing sex with your hubby. Now not much bothers me...I really enjoy watching him now that i have gotten past the "this is a little weird to see" part. I was the one who brought up the subject and was really wanting to try it all...but at first was a little uncomfy with the reality of it. We had friends that went slow and let us go at our pace. We started with same room which let us know how we would feel with another couple then moved on to full swap and girl/girl which was what i was most interested in trying. The first woman i was with let me make all the first moves and she followed. It made the first time one of the best ever!!!!
all i can say is find a couple who is willing to go at your pace and makes you feel totally comfy!!!
best wishes....s |