Okay, here are my newbie answers.
1. We have discussed to certain extent what we want to get out of this as well as what our fantasies are. We've also talked about what swinging might do to our relationsip
2. As for research, I found this board. Kermit and I both read it and sometimes discuss the things that come us... very helpful indeed.
3. We have talked a bit about what our boundaries are but we don't know exactly
what they are because we just aren't sure if those boundaries will be completely different once we get into a situation.
4. I wonder is I will ever walk into a club (no matter how much I know about them)... but of course I want to know as much as a I can before making any actual steps.
5. One other thing that came up in the chat was that people were reluctant to be with newbies because they don't know what they really want. This leaves me sort of confused because we don't know completely what we want. I just wonder how any newbies get started with. It seems like a bit of a catch 22. As a newbie you don't know exactly what you want or how you'll feel until you're in the situation. And anyone with any experience doesn't want to be with a newbie for the above mentioned reasons. I guess newbies will have to stick to newbies until they are oldies. I do agree with EBF though, I don't see how someone could get involved in something like this without finding out as much as possible beforehand. It's just plain silly.
~Piggy