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Elusive BiFem · 11-20-2003, 11:55 PM

Ok, everyone...another curiosity here.

I got blown out of the water tonight in moderated chat. The topic was on the responsibilities of experienced swingers to newbies. I'm just a tad removed from newbie status, and would have no problem playing with a newbie couple. However, it came up...if I understood this correctly, that some couples enter into swinging without researching it in any way? TNT said something about some of them don't even know they can say, "NO!" All along, my assumption has been that even newbies, meaning inexperienced, to me, had some basic knowledge of swinging.

Now my ideas are along the line that any couple, in this day and age, should know some basics before their first venture into a club and/or attempting to establish a swinging relationship. Personally, I can't imagine a couple not investigating and studying this before making even the commitment to attend a club, much less making a play date. Have I totally missed the boat on this?

So! Questions:

1. Before your first club and/or play date experience, did you and your SO discuss swinging in any detail? Mind sharing some of the discussion material?

2. Before the club and/or play date, did you do any online research? Other type of research? Did you have a relatively accurate concept of what swinging was and what it was about?

3. Before the club, etc., did you establish your personal boundaries? (and yes, we know they change with experience, but did you have some boundaries established going in?

4. Did any of ya'll just walk into a club or social or other type of situation feeling totally unaware of what swinging was about?

5. Any other information you would care to share?

Thanks - EBF

11-20-2003, 11:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Active Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,400 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	Information before Swinging? Ok, everyone...another curiosity here. I got blown out of the water tonight in moderated chat. The topic was on the responsibilities of experienced swingers to newbies. I'm just a tad removed from newbie status, and would have no problem playing with a newbie couple. However, it came up...if I understood this correctly, that some couples enter into swinging without researching it in any way? TNT said something about some of them don't even know they can say, "NO!" All along, my assumption has been that even newbies, meaning inexperienced, to me, had some basic knowledge of swinging. Now my ideas are along the line that any couple, in this day and age, should know some basics before their first venture into a club and/or attempting to establish a swinging relationship. Personally, I can't imagine a couple not investigating and studying this before making even the commitment to attend a club, much less making a play date. Have I totally missed the boat on this? So! Questions: 1. Before your first club and/or play date experience, did you and your SO discuss swinging in any detail? Mind sharing some of the discussion material? 2. Before the club and/or play date, did you do any online research? Other type of research? Did you have a relatively accurate concept of what swinging was and what it was about? 3. Before the club, etc., did you establish your personal boundaries? (and yes, we know they change with experience, but did you have some boundaries established going in? 4. Did any of ya'll just walk into a club or social or other type of situation feeling totally unaware of what swinging was about? 5. Any other information you would care to share? Thanks - EBF