Initially, when my wife and I decided to try the lifestyle, the idea of a "gentleman's club" appealed to both of us, since she had a curiosity about being with other women, and I had a voyeuristic approach to the whole thing. I think we were hoping that this would be the catalyst that would get her to find the "elusive bi female" so many refer to. In all honesty, that is a unrealistic approach (in retrospect- we never tried it in the end). Most strippers are working girls who want money. Many are not looking to "hook up" with couples unless there is some monetary (read prostitution) compensation involved. Now, I don't know about you, but I am not going to risk all I have to pay some woman to be with my woman! Furthermore, those few that are willing to do that may have some diseases that I would like to stay away from. Not to mention some have some seriously skewed emotional issues neither of us want to deal with. As far as the "take the girl to the strip club" for a lap dance and get her hot and bothered about another woman rubbing on her, SURE! For a woman who is bi curious, that might be the thing that makes up her mind one way or another. But beyond that, don't think about a relationship or one night stand coming out of it. I'm sure it can happen, but that's probably a road better left untraveled, IMHO. |