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Originally posted by LadyCleo
I imagine he controls those tendencies with couples unless they make the first move. Why don't you ask him? I certainly wouldn't deny myself the pleasure simply to spite him. |
I think that by advertising myself as bi-curious and explaining what that means to me on our websites and profiles, I've made the first move. Also, I don't feel as if refraining from bi-sex would be spiting him. I just think that if he considers himself straight, it's not my place to coerce or encourage him to do something he's not comfortable with. If he is interested in bi-sex, then I'll leave it up to him to act on that interest.
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Originally posted by LadyCleo
Why are we so quick to place labels on people? |
I think it's in our nature to categorize the world around us. Our perception only goes so far; past that, it's all conceptual and we'd be nowhere without our concepts.
In any case, he identified himself as "straight" from the start. I didn't label him, he labeled himself. My problem now seems to be what does "straight" mean to him and what does it mean to me.
If he's not into it, then I'm not going to enjoy it. There's nothing worse than sex in which one person is just waiting for it to be over. Most of all, I don't want him to feel like he has to acquiesce to my wishes just to have sex with my wife. That's not the case at all. I've lived my entire adult life as a heterosexual. I can wait a little longer to find someone who's not just pretending because he thinks it's what is expected of him. If we were looking for someone to fulfill both of our fantasies, we'd wait for a couple like us; hetero- female and bi-male.