The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How many couples do both same room and separate room?

tamster6584 · 11-16-2003, 12:19 AM

Hmm, what a variety of topics rolled into one!

My hubby and i have been swingers and partners for almost two decades. I don't think there is a variation of meetings that we haven't tried. Do we have a preference? Yes, we prefer to meet with other couples, as a couple. What we do from there, depends on everyone's comfort levels. Same room or separate room, both are fine, both have their advantages and disadvantages. Same room, you can watch your partner (which those voyeurs out there, like me, will understand the appeal of!). But, its not as intimate, and focussing on whats going on just with yourself can be difficult. Separate room, you lose the lovely sight of your partner enjoying giving and receiving and trading all the fun they are having, but you gain the benefit of privacy and less thereby less distractions.

Now, as for the other question, playing as a couple or playing separately. For years and years, we only played together. As we have grown older and more mature, and more secure with each other, we do sometimes play without each other. There are many rules and restrictions we abide by, though. We only play individually with couples (or part of a couple) that we have been with together, or have known well enough to feel safe with ( or that we our partner is safe with). We don't play with someone alone without the knowledge and approval of the other. We always let each other know when and where we will be. We always leave contact information. And, we ALWAYS have safe sex, just as we would if we were playing together. And another big rule, we don't EVER play with someone who's playing without the approval of THEIR partner. That's not swinging, in our opinion its cheating. We're here for everyone's fun, not to ruin people's lives or help them ruin someone elses.

*PHEW* that was long winded! Pardon me, while i get down off my soap box; it was starting to work its way under my feet there for a few minutes.

*wink* Tami (and Charlie!)

11-16-2003, 12:19 AM	#22 (permalink)
tamster6584 Registered Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 8 Location: Houston, TX Status: Couple	to be, or not to be (playing together), that is the question... Hmm, what a variety of topics rolled into one! My hubby and i have been swingers and partners for almost two decades. I don't think there is a variation of meetings that we haven't tried. Do we have a preference? Yes, we prefer to meet with other couples, as a couple. What we do from there, depends on everyone's comfort levels. Same room or separate room, both are fine, both have their advantages and disadvantages. Same room, you can watch your partner (which those voyeurs out there, like me, will understand the appeal of!). But, its not as intimate, and focussing on whats going on just with yourself can be difficult. Separate room, you lose the lovely sight of your partner enjoying giving and receiving and trading all the fun they are having, but you gain the benefit of privacy and less thereby less distractions. Now, as for the other question, playing as a couple or playing separately. For years and years, we only played together. As we have grown older and more mature, and more secure with each other, we do sometimes play without each other. There are many rules and restrictions we abide by, though. We only play individually with couples (or part of a couple) that we have been with together, or have known well enough to feel safe with ( or that we our partner is safe with). We don't play with someone alone without the knowledge and approval of the other. We always let each other know when and where we will be. We always leave contact information. And, we ALWAYS have safe sex, just as we would if we were playing together. And another big rule, we don't EVER play with someone who's playing without the approval of THEIR partner. That's not swinging, in our opinion its cheating. We're here for everyone's fun, not to ruin people's lives or help them ruin someone elses. PHEW that was long winded! Pardon me, while i get down off my soap box; it was starting to work its way under my feet there for a few minutes. wink Tami (and Charlie!)