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Originally posted by yawanna
I asked male staff once.. 'just what IS it about J Lo???' and they said 'duh...her BUTT!!'
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I think we just have to be ourselves and accept who we are at any given time.
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However, I DO read more often that men like curves and older women and experience and demeanour and sexually evocative women - those without benefit of Dupont. |
Yawanna,
You are absolutely correct in your comments. But I want to make a couple observations:
Regarding JLo, even if she was 300 pounds, men would fall all over her for her looks, especially her smile and those eyes. And her butt really isn't as big as the media suggests.
We DO accept ourselves for who we are. And we are comfortable in the knowledge that, although we would certainly like to drop some weight, it just ain't happenin' right now, due to some stressful issues we're dealing with right now. But no matter how much we accept ourselves, it is still a bit painful to hear someone say that they don't want to even so much as talk to us because we could 'stand to lose a 100 pounds'... we've actually been told that to our faces. Shallow people can hurt you with their senseless words. That's all I meant with the comments about clubs & what not.
Finally, Jerry has told me many times... and he shows it almost every day, that he loves my curves and wouldn't care if I were a size 24 or a size 4 (I am a size 16)... and he makes sure that I know he loves my boobs... all 36B of them... and that he would argue until his death to keep me from getting implants if I ever thought about that. He actually would prefer a girl with no breasts at all when compared to a girl with monster boobs from Dupont!
It just seems there are more rude and arrogant folks in this area as compared to others when it comes to swinging. We are, afterall, in the heart of the shore, where bikinis are the dress of the night in the summer... and NYC is a scant 35 miles away... with all the 'beautiful' people in NNJ & NY.
Liz