Long post...sorry....
Ok here goes....my husband and I are very open people with each other and want to meet other people with the same wants and desires......Here is a problem for me.....I have issues at the thought of being totally naked in front of anyone. Husband included....Long history that I can't go into...Not to be evasive just bad memories. This is also not a feel sorry for me post...just an issue I am trying to resolve within myself and just wanted to ask opinions. Does it bother the men when they are with another couple if the woman is modest but having fun? I love having sex with other people and having a great time as long as it's a safe environment and all parties are of the same mind.
He and I share the same wanting...to meet other couples for fun first then if things click then anything goes.
This is my concern.....Please don't laugh....I am wanting to meet people and it seems the best place that has been suggested is maybe a Meet and Greet....Sounds great. We have been to a few meetings of people but they all turned out to be young, "pretty people" I felt very uncomfortable. I am wondering if any other women out there have this problem, and if so how do you get over it?
I am by NO means a Barbie type...but not a Ma Kettle or Minnie Pearl type either. I am not badly over weight...but because of a foot surgery I can't run or walk very much any more so very little exercise. I am what I call SMAK...stretch marks after kids...breast that aren’t perky anymore...not to the knees yet but they sure don't poke you in the eye anymore and thank god for under wires.
I am very subconscious about not being 20 and built like a brick ...well you get the idea. But at age 20 I was too involved with raising my children to live out my fantasy's and now that they are grown and out of the house I feel I am too old...Early 40's isn't old by any means but not a spring chicken to say the least.
My husband is wonderful...he has been so attentive when we have been with other couples, with soft lights, candles, even arranging a swim with some friends at midnight with only the moon for light. But that was with friends that we had known for a long time and not new friends.
Ok enough about me being very modest. I guess I really don't have many questions just more curious about the people that post here. Does age, weight, ect., matter that much to you?
My first priority is to click with people....to have fun...same interest...then go from there. We have not met but one couple from our area since we moved here and then we found this site and everyone seems so nice, honest, up front and to the point. I like that in the people I associate with. So I just thought I would post here to get some insight as to what is thought about being too modest. I don't think I am the only woman out there that feels this way...at least I hope not and wanted to see what they did to get past this issue.
