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Originally posted by biblonde
To each his own i guess. Personally i cant imagine having sex without kissing. It is something i love doing!! I cant imagine sticking a guys cock in my mouth but not letting him kiss me?? I have no problems watching other women kiss my hubby either. |
I'm with you, biblonde. I can't imagine sex without mouth-kissing. It's just too big a part of foreplay with me. Not being allowed to kiss would be like tying my hands behing my back. I would like to hear one rational excuse for not kissing someone you're willing to lick, suck or penetrate. If we're confident enough to swing, we should be confident enough to kiss. Anyone who thinks their relationship can't survive a little Frenching should not, in my opinion, even think of swinging.
I think it would have to be a deal-breaker for us.
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| We have ran into couples where the woman doesnt like very much "french" kissing going on because she feels there is to much passion there . |
Sounds more like jealousy and insecurity to me. I've expressed my feelings about this on other threads. I can't understand how there can be "too much passion" between two people who are having sex?!?! For that matter, how can any sex act between consenting adults be "passionless". It reveals a very immature view of love and attraction; one that treats love as a limited quantity; once you've given it to someone, you have no more left to give. My wife and I are deeply passionate about each other, but that doesn't mean there isn't passion enough for another partner. To say that I have to "hold back" a part of me, lest I cross some line and go too far, would be a disrespectful underestimation of our relationship and our love.
Neither of us is afraid of a little passion. If, by some strange twist of fate, either of us should find someone whom we love as much as each other, then "by golly, we're going poly"! In the meantime, I refuse to treat the rock-solid love I have for her like a porcelain vase that needs protecting.
We're looking for friends and lovers, not inflatable sex dolls. If we wanted impersonal, emotionless sex with passionless partners, we'd hire professionals (who, oddly enough, typically don't kiss).