i've never been in the lifestly.. but i have been curious for some time now...
have you told your husband how you feel about this? have you perhaps suggested that you swing every other weekend? or once a month? have you mentioned to him how you are feeling rejected? (that's not the word i'm looking for "rejected" but it's the only thing i can think of right now)
I really think you need to have a serious talk with him.. get everything out in the open..
hmm.. also.. maybe you could plan a romantic date? you know surprise him with it or something?
some of my good friends who are married.. they always have a "date night".. where once a week they do something together as a date.. like dinner and a movie.. or mini golf.. and ice cream.. or just coffee.. but they do something once a week just themselves.. i always thought that was great..
anyway.. i hope everything turns out for the best..