think about it.. we have food, sex, intellect. Otherwise we work and live up to our responsibilities. The only other options we have, really, are food, sex, our brains...to expand and/or indulge ourselves.
I remember talking with a long time swinger couple we know, but have never played with, because we've become more 'family' than friends. I told them of one afternoon of sex with my husband and how mind blowing it was. And the husband told me 'so you've had the kind of sex my wife and I have'. They have been married for 14 years and have 4 children.
The emotional bonds that create an intimacy that is special only to the 2 in a good couple can never be equalled by recreational sex.
That's why, as someone else so articulately posted, there are rules.
To protect our relationships and alert us to perhaps not so stable couples.
When we've met couples that we had doubts about their solidity... we walk...away... and fast.
We have one bottom line never to be crossed rule in swinging.. that we are doing no harm to anyone else by participating...this means no cheaters, no troubled couples, no people just dating to get laid or swing as a single. Dating to swing (perhaps this is already on another thread and I apologize if it is....) is not swinging IMHO. I know people do it... I know _I_ did it but I didn't call myself a 'swinger'.. other people did.
A couple's primary relationship is of pre eminent importance and always to be respected. Normal is a morality imposed by I don't know who? But we all make choices always taking care for our significant others first and foremost and secondly those we bring into our social life.. sexual or otherwise.
Those are swingers
