Swinging is something both partners should be content with. If one doesn't feel it's right for them then there should be no debate. How can one enjoy it if the other doesn't.
My husband and I enjoy it because it helps fullfill each others fantasies. It's an "extension" of our already healthy lust for each other. I know my husband wants to be with other women, but not because he wants someone better but because he wants more. It turns me on to fullfill this for him as it turns him on that he'd do the same for me. I don't feel that anything is being taken away from me but rather given to me. On the otherhand if one feels that something is being taken away then it is and you shouldn't be doing it.
Maybe you should sit down and discuss why he may be so pesistant on the subject and won't take no for an answer. Have you shared your true feelings with him? Were you firm with your answers? Perhaps ask for sexy alternatives. He needs to get the idea that enough is enough on that subject and it might affect the direction in which your marriage may go.
Swinging or no swinging marriage has to be a partnership all the way and one partner shouldn't have to do something they feel so strongly about just to make the other happy. The other should respect feelings and know where to draw the line.
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